Cat parents – have you ever wondered why your feline friend seems obsessed with rubbing against you? Do you wonder whether your cat is trying to communicate something important that you may be missing?Head rubbing is a behavior that most cat parents find endearing. However, understanding your cat’s body language and non-verbal communication is an essential part of being a good cat parent. Cats are creatures of habit. This rubbing behavior is rooted in their instincts and learned from their mothers at a young age. It can have several meanings, requiring you to watch for other clues.In this article, I’ll break down the basics of non-verbal communication and help you understand what your cat is trying to tell you. After all, communication is an important foundation for a strong, loving relationship.Cats and PheromonesBefore we discuss the specific reasons cats rub their heads against the people in their lives, let’s take a moment to look at the biological explanation for this behavior. While there are many things your cat may be communicating, this communication largely comes back to one thing – pheromones.Pheromones are natural chemicals produced in your cat’s body and released when they interact with other objects or animals, such as through scratching, rubbing against objects, or spraying. They are colorless and odorless, meaning you won’t notice they are there. However, these chemicals trigger responses in your cat’s brain.The most common pheromones people are familiar with are those used when looking for a mate by triggering feelings of sexual attraction in other cats. We also see calming pheromones gaining popularity due to pheromone dispensers and other products that release synthetic versions of the chemicals to help a cat feel safe, relaxed, and secure.I will reference pheromones and their use in communication several times as we explore the different ways your cat may be using head rubbing to relay messages to you, your family, and other cats in the area.7 Reasons Cats Rub Against Their People If your cat is rubbing against you (or someone else), they are trying to use this movement to communicate a message to you. Often seen as simply a sign of affection, head rubbing is actually a fairly complex behavior with several potential meanings. Figuring out what your cat is trying to say may require watching for other signals your cat is projecting. Here are a few of the most common reasons cats rub against people: Just Saying Hello The most basic reason for head rubbing is that your cat is simply greeting you. This is particularly common if you have just come home (like returning from work) or either you or your cat just entered a room. Cats often use this behavior to greet other cats. Seeing you as part of their family/colony, your cat is telling you they are happy to see you by using the same greeting. Checking You Out As your cat rubs against you, they put their face close to the surface of your clothing or skin. Considering how much your cat relies on their sense of smell to navigate the world they live in, it likely comes as no surprise that, in doing this, they are checking out what smells they can pick up on you. Where have you been? Who have you been interacting with? This is also a common reason cats rub against people they don’t know. For example, if your cat rubs against a new guest in your home, they are trying to learn about this new individual who has entered their space. By rubbing against them, they aren’t showing affection or telling you that they like this person – they are still checking them out to figure out whether they deem them trustworthy and welcome in your home. As such, they may also appear nervous or unsettled with wide eyes, ears flattened back against their head, or a twitching tail. Asking for AttentionThis is the reason most people associate with head rubbing. It’s quite possible your cat is feeling affectionate and asking to be pet. In these cases, your cat will likely show other signs of love and affection, such as: Purring Meowing Slow blinking Licking you (ask grooming or “giving kisses”) Love bites Kneading Rolling on their back before/after to show their bellyFollowing you aroundWhen your cat is being affectionate like this, petting them may not stop the behavior. In fact, giving them attention can encourage further head rubbing as they enjoy this bonding moment. Letting You Know They Need SomethingCats are creatures of routine. They will notice if you are late for something typically scheduled, and it wouldn’t be surprising if they let you know. For example, if you are late filling their food dish, they may try to remind you that it’s mealtime. The head rubbing may be accompanied by little nips demanding your attention. My two cats, Pippen and Jinx, will use head rubbing to ask for many different things, including letting me know they would like a treat, alerting me that their water dish is running low, or asking me to clean the litterbox. Pay attention to whether your cat is just head rubbing against you or if their attention appears to be torn between you and something else. A cat asking for treats may rub against the cupboard where they are kept, while a cat wanting their water dish filled may wander over to check the dish. Marking Their “Territory” As I mentioned above, pheromones are often used to communicate with other cats. When it comes to head rubbing, your cat is leaving pheromones that tell others that you have been claimed. You are their person, and they aren’t afraid to make it known! The truth is that cats are territorial creatures and want to make sure they are marking their territory, even if that territory is another living, breathing being. This head-rubbing approach may also be used to establish ownership over other members of their family, regular visitors/friends they love, or even inanimate objects throughout your home. Be warned, if you have multiple cats in the home, this marking behavior may lead to some fights and turf wars. Whether you are introducing a new cat to the house or seeing territorial behavior arise between two existing cats, you can use pheromones to relieve the tension. Pheromone diffusers have been found to calm conflict, helping create a more peaceful home. In our house, we have had a lot of luck with the Feliway MultiCat Calming Pheromone Diffuser in the early days of introducing new cats, including the foster cats that have come into our home temporarily over the years.
